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    Love & Relationships

    Single, Saved, & Struggling

    “In my distress I called upon the Lord, and cried unto my God: he heard my voice out of his temple, and my cry came before him, even into his ears.” ‭‭Psalms 18:6 (KJV)

    “God, help me!”

    It was a simple prayer uttered plenty of times in the past, but this time was different.

    Just minutes before, I was driving around town doing errands. The radio was tuned to the Gospel station. Instead of playing the latest hit records there was a special segment on relationships.

    The host and his guests were sharing their journey to abstinence and how they now live completely satisfied in Christ.

    This was not the average sex is bad and you ought to save yourself for marriage churchy type of conversation. Instead it was more like I love God but I also loved sex and needed Him to deliver me type of discussion.

    Captivated by the dialogue, I couldn’t get out of the car, even after reaching my destination. Each person spoke with such transparency and conviction. It made me question if I too could finally conquer this area of my life.

    You see, for most of my teenage and adult life, sex was my go-to drug of choice; it was what I used to escape reality to find comfort and companionship.

    It didn’t matter that the effects would fade almost instantaneously. The temporary satisfaction was one I couldn’t seem to resist. And being saved did not automatically take those feelings away.

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    Having His Baby But Not His Heart

    “Then she became pregnant a third time and gave birth to another son. He was named Levi, for she said, “Surely this time my husband will feel affection for me, since I have given him three sons!”  Genesis 29:34 

    It took a long time to believe the Bible could help navigate all the roadblocks of my life.

    It’s not like I didn’t believe in God. I just never imagined a story from thousands of years ago could speak to my deepest hurt and unmask my hidden scars.

    That was before I stumbled across the story of Leah and Jacob.

    Tucked in between the pages of Genesis, their relationship could have easily been the main feature on any of today’s reality television shows.

    It’s a story woven in rejection and entangled with love and betrayal.  And it’s one that unexpectedly tugged on the strings of my single mom heart.

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    5 Simple Tips to Survive Valentine’s Day

    Valentine’s Day is one of the few holidays that people either really love or really hate.

    There are those who rightfully preach the message of showing love every day of the year. Then there are the people like me who see nothing wrong with having an extra day to be pampered and loved on even more.

    If you can identify with that second category of people AND you’re single then chances are you’ve probably wished you could skip the month of February altogether.

    With Valentine’s Day quickly approaching (3 days for those who are counting) I’ve decided to share my 5 simple tips to help you survive this Valentine’s Day!

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    7 Types of Guys You Should NEVER Date or Marry…Part 2

    If your social media timeline and news feeds are anything like mine, then you already know what season we’re in.

    Holiday gatherings and New Year celebrations have ushered us into the what used to be one of my least favorite time of the year, ENGAGEMENT SEASON. 

    For those who may be unfamiliar with the term, engagement season is the time period between Thanksgiving and Valentine’s Day.  It’s during this particular stretch of the year where almost 40% of engagements occur. 

    Seeing photos, videos, and those most delightful relationship status updates plastered all over my social networks used to be a painful reminder of just how SINGLE I am.

    It’s not that I wasn’t happy for my friends.

    I was just tired of feeling like the ONLY ONE without a happily ever after.

    That feeling of longing combined with my impatience rarely led to anything good.

    My feelings are probably the reason why I ended up in so many bad relationships.  (If you haven’t done so already, be sure to check out  7 Types of Guys You Should NEVER Date or Marry…Part 1 to see exactly what I’m talking about.)

    Trust me, I know how easy it is to get discouraged by the tide wave of images you see on social media.

    But before you make any rash decisions this engagement season, check out the final three types of guys you should never date or marry. Continue reading

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    7 Types of Guys You Should NEVER Date or Marry…Part 1

    Let me preface this by saying I am not a love guru or love expert.  I am however an ex-serial dater, and have experienced more than my share of failed relationships.

    The men I dated were all different – different cultures, social status, churched, unchurched – you name it, I’ve probably dated him.

    In retrospect, much of my heartache and disappointments could have been avoided had I not entertained some of the men that came my way.

    So in no particular order, here’s part one of my list of 7 types of guys you should never date or marry.

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