“For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven.” Ecclesiastes 3:1
Life can change in the blink of an eye.
One moment you can be comfortably cruising through your circumstances. And the next, you can be seriously struggling to keep your head above the waters.
That’s how I felt for the past year and a half.
Don’t worry, I’ll explain!
In the Fall of 2017, I got engaged to my amazing now husband, AJ. Good news right? That was the comfortable part.
Together with our families we settled on an early sumner 2018 wedding date. That gave us a little over nine months to prepare for the most important day of our lives.
It was also the beginning of the seriously struggling part.
“…Look around. Isn’t there plenty of land out there? Let’s separate. If you go left, I’ll go right; if you go right, I’ll go left.” Genesis 13:8-9 (MSG)
Have you ever had to give up something you loved? Something you felt entitled to? Something familiar and comfortable?
It’s one of the hardest decisions to make.
It’s especially hard when you see no new prospects on the horizon or when you don’t have a backup plan.
That’s exactly what Abraham (Abram) was forced to do when things reached a breaking point between him and his nephew, Lot.
Abraham and Lot were both flourishing in life, so much so things started to get uncomfortable between them. For the sake of peace, Abraham decided it was time for him and Lot to separate.
Status updates. With her new last name. And those cute custom hashtags dedicated to the newlyweds.
And who can forget the pictures, showcasing her new manicure color and of course, her sparkly new ring.
Yup, here comes wedding season 2017!
For some of us single gals, it can be discouraging scrolling down social media lane during the summer and early Fall months. It’s during this time when weddings and engagements seem to be the only stories featured on our timelines.
“Then she became pregnant a third time and gave birth to another son. He was named Levi, for she said, “Surely this time my husband will feel affection for me, since I have given him three sons!” Genesis 29:34
It took a long time to believe the Bible could help navigate all the roadblocks of my life.
It’s not like I didn’t believe in God. I just never imagined a story from thousands of years ago could speak to my deepest hurt and unmask my hidden scars.
That was before I stumbled across the story of Leah and Jacob.
Tucked in between the pages of Genesis, their relationship could have easily been the main feature on any of today’s reality television shows.
It’s a story woven in rejection and entangled with love and betrayal. And it’s one that unexpectedly tugged on the strings of my single mom heart.
“Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the LORD’s purpose that prevails.” Proverbs 19:21 (NIV)
Here we go. Two thousand eighteen!
With a few days under our belts already, you can still sense the excitement and anticipation for what will unfold in the coming months.
After all, with the New Year comes fresh hope and a much welcomed chance to start all over.
Everything and everyone around us pumps up our hearts with positivity, so much so that we’re just oozing with confidence that this year will finally be OUR year:
Our year to meet and marry our prince charming.
Our year to start a family.
Our year to see our business boom.
Our year when all our dreams become our picture perfect reality.
Written by Brandi Marsh of Ebony and Pink Pearls for This Is Her Journey
Are you a single women dreading once again another year “being single” during the holidays? And during this festive holiday time you feel frustrated, while nursing thoughts of:
- What are you gonna tell those nosey relatives who definitely mean well, but always ask “why aren’t you married yet?”
- Where are you going to do to occupy your time to avoid feelings of loneliness because you do not have the special someone in your life?
- When will day come for me to bring my guy to the family Holiday vacation?
As you contemplate on how to approach the holidays this season, it is very important to celebrate during this season in a way feel comfortable for you as a single person, whether you have that special someone in your life or not.
As you begin to see all the commercialism, decorations and your ears are bombarded with songs of holiday cheer, let the following holiday do’s and don’ts guide you.
In that day you will say: “Give praise to the Lord, proclaim his name; make known among the nations what he has done, and proclaim that his name is exalted. Sing to the Lord, for he has done glorious things; let this be known to all the world. Isaiah 12:4-5 (NIV)
It’s Thanksgiving Day, and that can only mean one thing. Get ready to have your taste buds salivating all day (and night) as your family and friends share snapshots of their dinner and desserts up and down your news feeds.
There’ll be pictures. Videos. Memes. All showcasing the turkey, trimmings, and treats that will fill homes and stomachs all across America today.
We’ll see and read all about what’s happening in places near and far. It’s part of the delight of living in the age of social media.
But instead of only sharing what’s on our dinner plates, this year, why don’t we share something more meaningful with our networks.
Written by Tanisha Shanee for This is Her Journey
The holiday season is upon us. Once we start seeing all the advertisements for pumpkin spice everything, we know next comes Thanksgiving and Christmas. Happy, happy. Joy. No?
For the last 6 years, the holiday season has been difficult for me.
In 2011, I found out I was pregnant and my baby would be born around Thanksgiving. On April 1st however, I had a miscarriage.
Sadly, I never looked at the holidays the same. But once I started my lifestyle journey in 2012, I started to view life a little differently.
You see, God started to speak to me about healing. God is a healer and He wants to be a part of your journey. He wants to be a part of every aspect of our lives.