“So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up.” Galatians 6:9
You’re right there!
You’re doing great. Just keep pushing!
After being pregnant for what felt like an eternity it was finally time for my new little one to make his grand entrance to the world.
Over and over the nurses, doctor and my husband kept telling me to push. From their angle they saw how close I was to giving birth.
They saw the complete picture, while all I could do was take them at their word.
Have you ever played the “what if” game?
You know, what if things worked out with (insert name of random ex here)?
What if I made the wrong decision in switching jobs?
What if I waited to do things God’s way?
What if I missed my only chance to pursue my dreams?
I hate playing the what if game, because I always end up loosing:
I lose my peace. I lose my joy. I lose hours of sleep. I lose it all when my mind starts wandering into the endless possibility of what ifs.
I’m guessing you’ve had your share of losses playing the what if game as well.
Letting go of the past, no matter how dysfunctional or damaging it may have been, is never an easy process…even for us super-faith girls.
“For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven.” Ecclesiastes 3:1
Life can change in the blink of an eye.
One moment you can be comfortably cruising through your circumstances. And the next, you can be seriously struggling to keep your head above the waters.
That’s how I felt for the past year and a half.
Don’t worry, I’ll explain!
In the Fall of 2017, I got engaged to my amazing now husband, AJ. Good news right? That was the comfortable part.
Together with our families we settled on an early sumner 2018 wedding date. That gave us a little over nine months to prepare for the most important day of our lives.
It was also the beginning of the seriously struggling part.
“…Look around. Isn’t there plenty of land out there? Let’s separate. If you go left, I’ll go right; if you go right, I’ll go left.” Genesis 13:8-9 (MSG)
Have you ever had to give up something you loved? Something you felt entitled to? Something familiar and comfortable?
It’s one of the hardest decisions to make.
It’s especially hard when you see no new prospects on the horizon or when you don’t have a backup plan.
That’s exactly what Abraham (Abram) was forced to do when things reached a breaking point between him and his nephew, Lot.
Abraham and Lot were both flourishing in life, so much so things started to get uncomfortable between them. For the sake of peace, Abraham decided it was time for him and Lot to separate.
“Then she became pregnant a third time and gave birth to another son. He was named Levi, for she said, “Surely this time my husband will feel affection for me, since I have given him three sons!” Genesis 29:34
It took a long time to believe the Bible could help navigate all the roadblocks of my life.
It’s not like I didn’t believe in God. I just never imagined a story from thousands of years ago could speak to my deepest hurt and unmask my hidden scars.
That was before I stumbled across the story of Leah and Jacob.
Tucked in between the pages of Genesis, their relationship could have easily been the main feature on any of today’s reality television shows.
It’s a story woven in rejection and entangled with love and betrayal. And it’s one that unexpectedly tugged on the strings of my single mom heart.
“Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the LORD’s purpose that prevails.” Proverbs 19:21 (NIV)
Here we go. Two thousand eighteen!
With a few days under our belts already, you can still sense the excitement and anticipation for what will unfold in the coming months.
After all, with the New Year comes fresh hope and a much welcomed chance to start all over.
Everything and everyone around us pumps up our hearts with positivity, so much so that we’re just oozing with confidence that this year will finally be OUR year:
Our year to meet and marry our prince charming.
Our year to start a family.
Our year to see our business boom.
Our year when all our dreams become our picture perfect reality.
Written by Brandi Marsh of Ebony and Pink Pearls for This Is Her Journey
Are you a single women dreading once again another year “being single” during the holidays? And during this festive holiday time you feel frustrated, while nursing thoughts of:
- What are you gonna tell those nosey relatives who definitely mean well, but always ask “why aren’t you married yet?”
- Where are you going to do to occupy your time to avoid feelings of loneliness because you do not have the special someone in your life?
- When will day come for me to bring my guy to the family Holiday vacation?
As you contemplate on how to approach the holidays this season, it is very important to celebrate during this season in a way feel comfortable for you as a single person, whether you have that special someone in your life or not.
As you begin to see all the commercialism, decorations and your ears are bombarded with songs of holiday cheer, let the following holiday do’s and don’ts guide you.