Written by Tanisha Shanee exclusively for This Is Her Journey
May: The month where April showers blossoms May flowers. The month for new beginnings. And also the month where children celebrate their mothers.
For the last six years, this month has taken on a whole new meaning. What is supposed to be an exciting and wonderful season has turned into a very emotional time for me.
Why is Mother’s Day so emotional for me?
Well, I do have my mother with me, I thank the Lord, Jesus Christ for that. She is a beautiful, strong woman who gave birth to two beautiful women.
But, for some women like me, even though we have our mothers in our lives, we still feel pain on this day because of one word: MISCARRIAGE.
“But you are to be perfect, even as your Father in heaven is perfect.” Matthew 5:48
I can never polish my nails as nicely as they do at the nail salon.
Maybe it’s because of the awkward angles I have to paint from. Maybe it’s because this is what they do every single day. Or maybe it’s because I’m just too heavy handed when it comes to the applications.
Either way there’s always a big difference when I DIY my nails versus going to get them professionally done.
Don’t get me wrong, from a distance, you can’t really tell the difference.
When I do my own nails, they’re decent enough to get compliments from others. But when I take a close up look, I can always spot the imperfections.
The closer I examine my paint job, the more over the lines, smudging, and uneven polish I see.
But isn’t that like our walk with Christ?
“Not that I speak from [any personal] need, for I have learned to be content [and self-sufficient through Christ, satisfied to the point where I am not disturbed or uneasy] regardless of my circumstances. I know how to get along and live humbly [in difficult times], and I also know how to enjoy abundance and live in prosperity. In any and every circumstance I have learned the secret [of facing life], whether well-fed or going hungry, whether having an abundance or being in need.” Philippians 4:11-12 (AMP)
Content. That’s been the word on my heart and my lips for the past week.
You see, scrolling through my social media timeline made me more and more dissatisfied with the progression of my life. But almost immediately the Holy Spirit reminded of the Apostle Paul’s words in Philippians 4:11-12:
“…I have learned to be content [and self-sufficient through Christ, satisfied to the point where I am not disturbed or uneasy] regardless of my circumstances.
I know how to get along and live humbly [in difficult times], and I also know how to enjoy abundance and live in prosperity. In any and every circumstance I have learned the secret [of facing life], whether well-fed or going hungry, whether having an abundance or being in need.”
Perhaps you’ve been feeling disturbed or uneasy about your circumstances lately.
I’ll be honest. I did not always enjoy being a single parent.
For the first few years I constantly asked myself “why did I have a baby with him?”
It was never a question about my love for my daughter. I just wished there was a way I could have her without dealing with the drama and heartache of a failed relationship.
I’m sure I am not the only single parent that’s felt that way.
With close to 12 million single parent families in the United States, co-parenting is becoming the new “norm”. Whether never married, divorced, or separated, more and more Americans are having to learn how to coexist for the sake of their children.
Take it from someone who’s living it firsthand, it is not always easy!
Figuring out how to co-parent can be one of the toughest challenges any newly single mom (or dad) will face.