I’ll be honest. I did not always enjoy being a single parent.
For the first few years I constantly asked myself “why did I have a baby with him?”
It was never a question about my love for my daughter. I just wished there was a way I could have her without dealing with the drama and heartache of a failed relationship.
I’m sure I am not the only single parent that’s felt that way.
With close to 12 million single parent families in the United States, co-parenting is becoming the new “norm”. Whether never married, divorced, or separated, more and more Americans are having to learn how to coexist for the sake of their children.
Take it from someone who’s living it firsthand, it is not always easy!
Figuring out how to co-parent can be one of the toughest challenges any newly single mom (or dad) will face.
With Spring just around the corner, most of us will embark on our annual spring cleaning adventures.
We’ll sift through our closets and swap out our wardrobes. Our windows and furnishings will be meticulously dusted and polished to welcome in the new season.
But what if God is calling us to do a different kind of cleaning this year?
Proverbs 18:21a says “Death and life are in the power of the tongue…” and while many women are familiar with this scripture, watching our words can be a daily struggle.
That’s why our next book club read will be “Keep It Shut: What to Say, How to Say It, and When to Say Nothing at All” by Karen Ehman.
“The Lord directs the steps of the godly. He delights in every detail of their lives. Though they stumble, they will never fall, for the Lord holds them by the hand.” Psalm 34: 23-24
“Thank you for getting back to us. We will need your final answer by 10am EST on Monday. Have a great weekend.”
Have a great weekend?
With only 72 hours to figure out my next move, I knew my weekend would be anything but great. Faced with what would be a life altering decision, I immediately began to panic:
Should I take this opportunity?
Was this God answering my prayer? Maybe it’s the enemy trying to set me up for disaster?
What if I take this chance and things don’t work out, then what?
I knew I couldn’t move forward without praying. But every time I tried to pray, it felt like God was busy responding to someone else’s requests.
It was a Sunday afternoon this group of women would not soon forget.
They gathered at the invitation of Onika Mars, the owner of ELONIS International, a booming men’s and women’s fashion boutique.
But it wasn’t the clothes or fashion that brought them together that day.
These women were all there to discuss the damaging impact of domestic violence.
It had been almost eight years since Onika left her abuser, though this would be the first time she’d host an event to share about her journey.
Her idea, “Come Sit and Chat with Onika” would be the first of its kind in a community where many abuse victims are forced to cope with their pain alone.
For most of the women in attendance, this was the very first time they were able to speak about what they endured.
It was a night to talk, laugh, pray, but more importantly it was a night to release the burden they’d been carrying alone for so many years.
It was a night to not only see but hear that they were not the only ones abused by a loved one.
And since October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, I asked Onika to share more about her story so we can continue to break the cycle of suffering in silence.