This Is Her Journey

The Downright Dreadful and Difficult “S” Word

Wives, obey your own husbands. In doing this, you obey the Lord.  For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church…As the church is to obey Christ, wives are to obey their own husbands in everything. Ephesians 5:22-24 (NLV)

I’ve always been an independent, do things my own way kind of girl.

My family and close friends, they’d probably say I’m stubborn or hardheaded. But I like independent better, don’t you?

It’s a much more pleasant spin on what can be a downright dreadful and difficult topic, submission.

Being the good Christian girl I am, I’ve heard all the scriptures and sermons about submitting many, many times.

But that does nothing to stop the automatic eye rolls or slow the “ain’t nobody going to tell me what to do” chorus that quickly arises in my heart and my head.

Prayers for My Child – Back to School Edition

Oh Lord…here we go!

Back to homework assignments.

Back to special projects.

Back to state exams. Packing lunch bags. Fussing over outfit choices, or why the uniform is “boring”. And my all time favorite, back to the daily dash to make it out the house on time.

Sweet Jesus, it’s back to school time!

Would you excuse me for a moment while I take a deep breath. Feel free to take one too. I  promise, I won’t judge!

Walking Away Can Be A Good Thing

“…Look around. Isn’t there plenty of land out there? Let’s separate. If you go left, I’ll go right; if you go right, I’ll go left.” Genesis 13:8-9 (MSG)

Have you ever had to give up something you loved? Something you felt entitled to? Something familiar and comfortable?

It’s one of the hardest decisions to make.

It’s especially hard when you see no new prospects on the horizon or when you don’t have a backup plan.

That’s exactly what Abraham (Abram) was forced to do when things reached a breaking point between him and his nephew, Lot.

Abraham and Lot were both flourishing in life, so much so things started to get uncomfortable between them. For the sake of peace, Abraham decided it was time for him and Lot to separate.

“…Look around. Isn’t there plenty of land out there? Let’s separate. If you go left, I’ll go right; if you go right, I’ll go left.” Genesis 13:8-9 (MSG)

Technically, the inheritance belonged to Abraham.

But in great humility, he allowed Lot to have the first choice. And Lot took full advantage of the offer, choosing the portion of land that seemed like the best option.

At first glance, it looked like Lot got the better end of the deal. But as the story unfolded God stepped in with a plot twist of epic proportion.

After Lot leaves, God revealed a new plan to bless Abraham with more land and more descendants than he could count.

My sweet friend, did you catch that?

AFTER!  Not while Lot was still in the picture. Or while Abraham was sorting out how to handle the situation. But after he moved on by faith.

There is so much we can learn from Abraham’s story but in moments when I sense God pushing me to walk away or let something go, my heart clings most to these two truths:

1. God’s blessings are never connected to anything or anyone that’s leaving. 

So many times, God wants to bless us with something new but we get stuck, lamenting over what was or what could have been.

But not Abraham. He didn’t waste any time in starting over; he didn’t beat himself up reminiscing on how good things were when Lot was around.

He instead allowed God to redirect his focus to something new, something greater, something divine.

That’s how we should live our lives as well, knowing what God has for us will come to pass, even if we are left standing alone in the unfamiliar.

2. Every thing God does is for a good reason. 

Abraham didn’t know what was next for him, yet not once did he hesitate in his decision to separate from Lot. That’s because he trusted his God completely.

Abraham knew the same God who was with him when he left his home country and all his family would be the same God with him in the new land.

And he was right! Out of a lousy situation came one of his greatest blessings.

You see, every thing God does is for a good reason. It may not start out good, but it always end good. It’s His promise to every one who trusts in Him.

Oh, how I pray we all have the faith to trust our God like Abraham.

Without borders. Without limitations. Without hesitation.



The Ultimate Wedding Season Survival Guide

Here comes…the…

Status updates. With her new last name. And those cute custom hashtags dedicated to the newlyweds.

And who can forget the pictures, showcasing her new manicure color and of course, her sparkly new ring.

Yup, here comes wedding season 2017!

For some of us single gals, it can be discouraging scrolling down social media lane during the summer and early Fall months. It’s during this time when weddings and engagements seem to be the only stories featured on our timelines.

A Special Prayer for Mother’s Day

I know today will be a busy day for many of you. It’s going to be a busy day for me as well.

But before we get lost in opening gifts, exchanging celebratory hugs, and sending off those sparkly group text messages, can we just slip away for a few moments of quiet…just the two of us?

Like so many moments in life, Mother’s Day can be bittersweet.

For some women, it is a blissful day of pampering from her family. For another, it can be a painful reminder of an indescribable loss. And for another, it’s a day where their seemingly deferred dreams come crashing head first into their present realities.

Yes, Mother’s Day can be all these things and so much.

The truth is life doesn’t always come wrapped in a pretty package of perfect.