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Holiday Blues: Do’s and Don’ts for Singles

Written by Brandi Marsh of Ebony and Pink Pearls for This Is Her Journey

Are you a single women dreading once again another year “being single” during the holidays? And during this festive holiday time you feel frustrated, while nursing thoughts of:

  • What are you gonna tell those nosey relatives who definitely mean well, but always ask “why aren’t you married yet?”
  • Where are you going to do to occupy your time to avoid feelings of loneliness because you do not have the special someone in your life?
  • When will day come for me to bring my guy to the family Holiday vacation?

As you contemplate on how to approach the holidays this season, it is very important to celebrate during this season in a way feel comfortable for you as a single person, whether you have that special someone in your life or not.

As you begin to see all the commercialism, decorations and your ears are bombarded with songs of holiday cheer, let the following holiday do’s and don’ts guide you.

The Downright Dreadful and Difficult “S” Word

Wives, obey your own husbands. In doing this, you obey the Lord.  For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church…As the church is to obey Christ, wives are to obey their own husbands in everything. Ephesians 5:22-24 (NLV)

I’ve always been an independent, do things my own way kind of girl.

My family and close friends, they’d probably say I’m stubborn or hardheaded. But I like independent better, don’t you?

It’s a much more pleasant spin on what can be a downright dreadful and difficult topic, submission.

Being the good Christian girl I am, I’ve heard all the scriptures and sermons about submitting many, many times.

But that does nothing to stop the automatic eye rolls or slow the “ain’t nobody going to tell me what to do” chorus that quickly arises in my heart and my head.

The Ultimate Wedding Season Survival Guide

Here comes…the…

Status updates. With her new last name. And those cute custom hashtags dedicated to the newlyweds.

And who can forget the pictures, showcasing her new manicure color and of course, her sparkly new ring.

Yup, here comes wedding season 2017!

For some of us single gals, it can be discouraging scrolling down social media lane during the summer and early Fall months. It’s during this time when weddings and engagements seem to be the only stories featured on our timelines.

Don’t Be a Wife to A Boyfriend: 10 Lessons I Learned When I Was Single

If you’ve been on social media lately, chances are you’ve come across the viral smash hit article “Don’t Be A Wife To A Boyfriend: 10 Lessons I Learned When I Was Single.”

Written by Shonda Brown White, her latest book bearing the same title, offers women an in-depth view into her journey to self-discovery, by sharing 10 key lessons learnt from her previous “situation-ships”.DBWTB

Page after page, Don’t Be A Wife To A Boyfriend reads like you’re having a one-on-one conversation with one of your closest girlfriends. 

Shonda is very transparent about her past struggles and candidly shares how her faith and failures helped transform her views as a single woman, when it comes to sex, love and relationships.

5 Steps To Help You Resist Sexual Sin

After sharing “Single, Saved, & Struggling” a lot of people asked how I became “so strong”. Privately, readers shared how they too struggle with sexual sin and are wanting to experience victory in that area of their relationship with God.

So today I’m sharing five steps that can help you resist sexual sin.

For the record, I don’t consider myself strong.  This is still a struggle and I am still 100% dependent on God for His help.

Over the years I learnt different techniques to resist the temptation.

Some of the steps you may know already.  And none of them are difficult.  They will however, require a lot of practice and your complete commitment.

I pray that as you incorporate these steps into your journey, you will begin enjoying life – single, saved, and no longer struggling!