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Holiday Blues: Do’s and Don’ts for Singles

Written by Brandi Marsh of Ebony and Pink Pearls for This Is Her Journey

Are you a single women dreading once again another year “being single” during the holidays? And during this festive holiday time you feel frustrated, while nursing thoughts of:

  • What are you gonna tell those nosey relatives who definitely mean well, but always ask “why aren’t you married yet?”
  • Where are you going to do to occupy your time to avoid feelings of loneliness because you do not have the special someone in your life?
  • When will day come for me to bring my guy to the family Holiday vacation?

As you contemplate on how to approach the holidays this season, it is very important to celebrate during this season in a way feel comfortable for you as a single person, whether you have that special someone in your life or not.

As you begin to see all the commercialism, decorations and your ears are bombarded with songs of holiday cheer, let the following holiday do’s and don’ts guide you.

Beauty for Ashes – How I Survived an Abusive Relationship

It was a Sunday afternoon this group of women would not soon forget.

They gathered at the invitation of Onika Mars, the owner of ELONIS International, a booming men’s and women’s fashion boutique.

But it wasn’t the clothes or fashion that brought them together that day.

These women were all there to discuss the damaging impact of domestic violence.

It had been almost eight years since Onika left her abuser, though this would be the first time she’d host an event to share about her journey.

Her idea, “Come Sit and Chat with Onika” would be the first of its kind in a community where many abuse victims are forced to cope with their pain alone.

For most of the women in attendance, this was the very first time they were able to speak about what they endured.

It was a night to talk, laugh, pray, but more importantly it was a night to release the burden they’d been carrying alone for so many years.

It was a night to not only see but hear that they were not the only ones abused by a loved one.

And since October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, I asked Onika to share more about her story so we can continue to break the cycle of suffering in silence.

Uninvited: Living Loved When You Feel Less Than, Left Out, and Lonely

Lysa TerKeurst, New York Times best-selling author of The Best Yes, Unglued, Made to Crave, and 16 other books, and president of Proverbs 31 Ministries is back at it again with her brand new book, Uninvited.

In Uninvited, Lysa shares her own deeply personal experiences of rejection, including the incredibly painful childhood struggle of being abandoned by her father.

205876_1_ftcUninvited examines the roots of rejection, as well as its ability to poison relationships from the inside out, including our relationship with God.

With biblical depth, gut-honest vulnerability, and refreshing wit, Lysa promises to help us:

  • Stop feeling left out by believing that even when we are overlooked by others we are handpicked by God.
  • Change our tendency to either fall apart or control the actions of others by embracing God-honoring ways to process our hurt.
  • Know exactly what to pray for the next ten days to steady our souls and restore our confidence in the midst of rejection.
  • Overcome the two core fears that feed our insecurities by understanding the secret of belonging.

 

Don’t Be a Wife to A Boyfriend: 10 Lessons I Learned When I Was Single

If you’ve been on social media lately, chances are you’ve come across the viral smash hit article “Don’t Be A Wife To A Boyfriend: 10 Lessons I Learned When I Was Single.”

Written by Shonda Brown White, her latest book bearing the same title, offers women an in-depth view into her journey to self-discovery, by sharing 10 key lessons learnt from her previous “situation-ships”.DBWTB

Page after page, Don’t Be A Wife To A Boyfriend reads like you’re having a one-on-one conversation with one of your closest girlfriends. 

Shonda is very transparent about her past struggles and candidly shares how her faith and failures helped transform her views as a single woman, when it comes to sex, love and relationships.

When You're Forced to Walk Away

When You’re Forced To Walk Away

“[Our daughter’s] going to be a big sister… and…”  

I thought this would be another routine visit to my ex’s place, except that day turned out to be anything but normal.

For the past five years, being the only woman to give birth to his child was my emotional safety net. It was a distinction no one else had.

But with one short sentence, my entire world came crashing down.

Honestly, I couldn’t process anything else my ex said after hearing those words. Mentally, it was as though I’d been hit by a Mack truck and lied waiting for the coroner to collect my lifeless body.

Granted, physically we hadn’t been together for quite some time.  Yet emotionally, there was very much an attachment there.