relationships

The Downright Dreadful and Difficult “S” Word

Wives, obey your own husbands. In doing this, you obey the Lord.  For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church…As the church is to obey Christ, wives are to obey their own husbands in everything. Ephesians 5:22-24 (NLV)

I’ve always been an independent, do things my own way kind of girl.

My family and close friends, they’d probably say I’m stubborn or hardheaded. But I like independent better, don’t you?

It’s a much more pleasant spin on what can be a downright dreadful and difficult topic, submission.

Being the good Christian girl I am, I’ve heard all the scriptures and sermons about submitting many, many times.

But that does nothing to stop the automatic eye rolls or slow the “ain’t nobody going to tell me what to do” chorus that quickly arises in my heart and my head.

One Word that Changed Mother’s Day For Me

Written by Tanisha Shanee exclusively for This Is Her Journey

May: The month where April showers blossoms May flowers. The month for new beginnings. And also the month where children celebrate their mothers.

For the last six years, this month has taken on a whole new meaning. What is supposed to be an exciting and wonderful season has turned into a very emotional time for me.

Why is Mother’s Day so emotional for me?

Well, I do have my mother with me, I thank the Lord, Jesus Christ for that. She is a beautiful, strong woman who gave birth to two beautiful women.

But, for some women like me, even though we have our mothers in our lives, we still feel pain on this day because of one word: MISCARRIAGE.

Beauty for Ashes – How I Survived an Abusive Relationship

It was a Sunday afternoon this group of women would not soon forget.

They gathered at the invitation of Onika Mars, the owner of ELONIS International, a booming men’s and women’s fashion boutique.

But it wasn’t the clothes or fashion that brought them together that day.

These women were all there to discuss the damaging impact of domestic violence.

It had been almost eight years since Onika left her abuser, though this would be the first time she’d host an event to share about her journey.

Her idea, “Come Sit and Chat with Onika” would be the first of its kind in a community where many abuse victims are forced to cope with their pain alone.

For most of the women in attendance, this was the very first time they were able to speak about what they endured.

It was a night to talk, laugh, pray, but more importantly it was a night to release the burden they’d been carrying alone for so many years.

It was a night to not only see but hear that they were not the only ones abused by a loved one.

And since October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, I asked Onika to share more about her story so we can continue to break the cycle of suffering in silence.

Don’t Be a Wife to A Boyfriend: 10 Lessons I Learned When I Was Single

If you’ve been on social media lately, chances are you’ve come across the viral smash hit article “Don’t Be A Wife To A Boyfriend: 10 Lessons I Learned When I Was Single.”

Written by Shonda Brown White, her latest book bearing the same title, offers women an in-depth view into her journey to self-discovery, by sharing 10 key lessons learnt from her previous “situation-ships”.DBWTB

Page after page, Don’t Be A Wife To A Boyfriend reads like you’re having a one-on-one conversation with one of your closest girlfriends. 

Shonda is very transparent about her past struggles and candidly shares how her faith and failures helped transform her views as a single woman, when it comes to sex, love and relationships.

When You're Forced to Walk Away

When You’re Forced To Walk Away

“[Our daughter’s] going to be a big sister… and…”  

I thought this would be another routine visit to my ex’s place, except that day turned out to be anything but normal.

For the past five years, being the only woman to give birth to his child was my emotional safety net. It was a distinction no one else had.

But with one short sentence, my entire world came crashing down.

Honestly, I couldn’t process anything else my ex said after hearing those words. Mentally, it was as though I’d been hit by a Mack truck and lied waiting for the coroner to collect my lifeless body.

Granted, physically we hadn’t been together for quite some time.  Yet emotionally, there was very much an attachment there.