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Holiday Blues: Do’s and Don’ts for Singles

Written by Brandi Marsh of Ebony and Pink Pearls for This Is Her Journey

Are you a single women dreading once again another year “being single” during the holidays? And during this festive holiday time you feel frustrated, while nursing thoughts of:

  • What are you gonna tell those nosey relatives who definitely mean well, but always ask “why aren’t you married yet?”
  • Where are you going to do to occupy your time to avoid feelings of loneliness because you do not have the special someone in your life?
  • When will day come for me to bring my guy to the family Holiday vacation?

As you contemplate on how to approach the holidays this season, it is very important to celebrate during this season in a way feel comfortable for you as a single person, whether you have that special someone in your life or not.

As you begin to see all the commercialism, decorations and your ears are bombarded with songs of holiday cheer, let the following holiday do’s and don’ts guide you.

Something We Can All Share With The World

In that day you will say: “Give praise to the Lord, proclaim his name; make known among the nations what he has done, and proclaim that his name is exalted. Sing to the Lord, for he has done glorious things; let this be known to all the world. Isaiah 12:4-5 (NIV)

It’s Thanksgiving Day, and that can only mean one thing. Get ready to have your taste buds salivating all day (and night) as your family and friends share snapshots of their dinner and desserts up and down your news feeds.

There’ll be pictures. Videos. Memes. All showcasing the turkey, trimmings, and treats that will fill homes and stomachs all across America today.

We’ll see and read all about what’s happening in places near and far. It’s part of the delight of living in the age of social media.

But instead of only sharing what’s on our dinner plates, this year, why don’t we share something more meaningful with our networks.

Like specific ways on how God has been good to us.

And how many times in the past year we’ve experienced His goodness with unexpected blessings.

Yes, let’s do as instructed by the prophet Isaiah in our key verse today:

“Give praise to the Lord, proclaim his name; make known among the nations what he has done, and proclaim that his name is exalted. Sing to the Lord, for he has done glorious things; let this be known to all the world.” (Isaiah 12-4-5)

Your year may not have been perfect.  Some things may have unfolded the way you least expected.

Yet here you are, still alive. Still able to provide for yourself and your family. Still healthy. Still with a song in your heart and peace in your soul. Still blessed.

Thanksgiving Day is a great time to share the beauty of the Lord with the world, even those in your virtual lives.

So today, as we invite others to explore our culinary creations, let us also proudly proclaim how good our God is.

Let’s push the focus off of us and back on the One who deserves all the praise and the glory.

Let’s spread the message about Jesus and all He has done for us. Let’s tell people all across the country and the nations that God is real. He’s alive. And He’s the real reason why we all can be thankful.

That’s something worth sharing as well!

Dear Lord, help me to keep things in the right perspective today and everyday.  I can get so distracted and put my attention and focus into the wrong things. But in those moments, I pray that your Holy Spirit will help me to remember You Lord is what matters the most. Not popularity. Not fame. Not anything this world can offer. Help me to bring glory to Your Name as I share Your love and goodness to all those around me. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

Maintaining Your Salvation When Life Stresses You Out

Have you ever seen the Snickers commercials?  You know the ones from the “You’re Not You When You’re Hungry” campaign? Well, that’s exactly how I am when life gets stressful and I am feeling completely overwhelmed.

When things in my world get too chaotic, I’m no where near to being a sweetly saved, compassionate, and caring person.

Family, friends, co-workers, even strangers – they all get my I just want to be left alone, passive aggressive cold shoulder. 

That is until the Holy Spirit pulls me back from morphing into someone I am not proud of.

One Word that Changed Mother’s Day For Me

Written by Tanisha Shanee exclusively for This Is Her Journey

May: The month where April showers blossoms May flowers. The month for new beginnings. And also the month where children celebrate their mothers.

For the last six years, this month has taken on a whole new meaning. What is supposed to be an exciting and wonderful season has turned into a very emotional time for me.

Why is Mother’s Day so emotional for me?

Well, I do have my mother with me, I thank the Lord, Jesus Christ for that. She is a beautiful, strong woman who gave birth to two beautiful women.

But, for some women like me, even though we have our mothers in our lives, we still feel pain on this day because of one word: MISCARRIAGE.

Live Content. Think Content. Be Content.

Not that I speak from [any personal] need, for I have learned to be content [and self-sufficient through Christ, satisfied to the point where I am not disturbed or uneasy] regardless of my circumstances. I know how to get along and live humbly [in difficult times], and I also know how to enjoy abundance and live in prosperity. In any and every circumstance I have learned the secret [of facing life], whether well-fed or going hungry, whether having an abundance or being in need.” Philippians 4:11-12 (AMP)

Content. That’s been the word on my heart and my lips for the past week.

You see, scrolling through my social media timeline made me more and more dissatisfied with the progression of my life. But almost immediately the Holy Spirit reminded of the Apostle Paul’s words in Philippians 4:11-12:

“…I have learned to be content [and self-sufficient through Christ, satisfied to the point where I am not disturbed or uneasy] regardless of my circumstances.

I know how to get along and live humbly [in difficult times], and I also know how to enjoy abundance and live in prosperity. In any and every circumstance I have learned the secret [of facing life], whether well-fed or going hungry, whether having an abundance or being in need.”

Perhaps you’ve been feeling disturbed or uneasy about your circumstances lately.