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Holiday Blues: Do’s and Don’ts for Singles

Written by Brandi Marsh of Ebony and Pink Pearls for This Is Her Journey

Are you a single women dreading once again another year “being single” during the holidays? And during this festive holiday time you feel frustrated, while nursing thoughts of:

  • What are you gonna tell those nosey relatives who definitely mean well, but always ask “why aren’t you married yet?”
  • Where are you going to do to occupy your time to avoid feelings of loneliness because you do not have the special someone in your life?
  • When will day come for me to bring my guy to the family Holiday vacation?

As you contemplate on how to approach the holidays this season, it is very important to celebrate during this season in a way feel comfortable for you as a single person, whether you have that special someone in your life or not.

As you begin to see all the commercialism, decorations and your ears are bombarded with songs of holiday cheer, let the following holiday do’s and don’ts guide you.

When Life Doesn’t Go As Planned

I’m a planner! A serious and dedicated planner.

I planned the birth of my first child…before I even had a mate.

I also planned my role on the PTA before that child was born.

I planned my career path, my type of husband, and I even planned where I would live.  (Hey, go hard or go home! Right?)

Fortunately, none of these events unfolded the way I planned: 

My first child was born ahead of my timeline. My husband’s daily life is not what I anticipated. I have lived in some interesting places, and the list goes on and on.

Just Friends?

“Nah bro. Ain’t NO way you’re just friends with shorty. YOU GOTTA BE hitting that!”

As blunt as this statement is, it’s one that I’ve heard on far too many occasions.

I’ve never had an issue maintaining a friendship with someone of the opposite sex.  Some of my best friends are women who I genuinely love, respect and admire.

But whenever I introduce my female friends to other friends or even family members, there tends to be some level of skepticism.

Some question the possibility of a platonic relationship while others question the appropriateness of the friendship simply because we are of the opposite sex.

I can somewhat understand their reasoning…somewhat.