Love & Relationships

The Downright Dreadful and Difficult “S” Word

Wives, obey your own husbands. In doing this, you obey the Lord.  For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church…As the church is to obey Christ, wives are to obey their own husbands in everything. Ephesians 5:22-24 (NLV)

I’ve always been an independent, do things my own way kind of girl.

My family and close friends, they’d probably say I’m stubborn or hardheaded. But I like independent better, don’t you?

It’s a much more pleasant spin on what can be a downright dreadful and difficult topic, submission.

Being the good Christian girl I am, I’ve heard all the scriptures and sermons about submitting many, many times.

But that does nothing to stop the automatic eye rolls or slow the “ain’t nobody going to tell me what to do” chorus that quickly arises in my heart and my head.

The Ultimate Wedding Season Survival Guide

Here comes…the…

Status updates. With her new last name. And those cute custom hashtags dedicated to the newlyweds.

And who can forget the pictures, showcasing her new manicure color and of course, her sparkly new ring.

Yup, here comes wedding season 2017!

For some of us single gals, it can be discouraging scrolling down social media lane during the summer and early Fall months. It’s during this time when weddings and engagements seem to be the only stories featured on our timelines.

When You're Forced to Walk Away

When You’re Forced To Walk Away

“[Our daughter’s] going to be a big sister… and…”  

I thought this would be another routine visit to my ex’s place, except that day turned out to be anything but normal.

For the past five years, being the only woman to give birth to his child was my emotional safety net. It was a distinction no one else had.

But with one short sentence, my entire world came crashing down.

Honestly, I couldn’t process anything else my ex said after hearing those words. Mentally, it was as though I’d been hit by a Mack truck and lied waiting for the coroner to collect my lifeless body.

Granted, physically we hadn’t been together for quite some time.  Yet emotionally, there was very much an attachment there.

5 Steps To Help You Resist Sexual Sin

After sharing “Single, Saved, & Struggling” a lot of people asked how I became “so strong”. Privately, readers shared how they too struggle with sexual sin and are wanting to experience victory in that area of their relationship with God.

So today I’m sharing five steps that can help you resist sexual sin.

For the record, I don’t consider myself strong.  This is still a struggle and I am still 100% dependent on God for His help.

Over the years I learnt different techniques to resist the temptation.

Some of the steps you may know already.  And none of them are difficult.  They will however, require a lot of practice and your complete commitment.

I pray that as you incorporate these steps into your journey, you will begin enjoying life – single, saved, and no longer struggling!

Single, Saved, & Struggling

“In my distress I called upon the Lord, and cried unto my God: he heard my voice out of his temple, and my cry came before him, even into his ears.” ‭‭Psalms 18:6 (KJV)

“God, help me!”

It was a simple prayer uttered plenty of times in the past, but this time was different.

Just minutes before, I was driving around town doing errands. The radio was tuned to the Gospel station. Instead of playing the latest hit records there was a special segment on relationships.

The host and his guests were sharing their journey to abstinence and how they now live completely satisfied in Christ.

This was not the average sex is bad and you ought to save yourself for marriage churchy type of conversation. Instead it was more like I love God but I also loved sex and needed Him to deliver me type of discussion.

Captivated by the dialogue, I couldn’t get out of the car, even after reaching my destination. Each person spoke with such transparency and conviction. It made me question if I too could finally conquer this area of my life.

You see, for most of my teenage and adult life, sex was my go-to drug of choice; it was what I used to escape reality to find comfort and companionship.

It didn’t matter that the effects would fade almost instantaneously. The temporary satisfaction was one I couldn’t seem to resist. And being saved did not automatically take those feelings away.