For Single Moms

Help as You Navigate the Highs and Lows of Single Motherhood

Why Did I Have A Baby With Him? Tips to Help You With Co-Parenting.

I’ll be honest. I did not always enjoy being a single parent.

For the first few years I constantly asked myself  “why did I have a baby with him?”

It was never a question about my love for my daughter. I just wished there was a way I could have her without dealing with the drama and heartache of a failed relationship.

I’m sure I am not the only single parent that’s felt that way.

With close to 12 million single parent families in the United States, co-parenting is becoming the new “norm”. Whether never married, divorced, or separated, more and more Americans are having to learn how to coexist for the sake of their children.

Take it from someone who’s living it firsthand, it is not always easy!

Figuring out how to co-parent can be one of the toughest challenges any newly single mom (or dad) will face.

Tackling the Unforgivable ‘C’ Word

I knew there would be no coming back from this.  I was about to break the cardinal rule and forever change the dynamics of our relationship.

Sitting in the waiting room, I quietly filled out my paperwork, while trying to drown out the nervous chatter racing through my head:

“You’re doing the right thing.”

“He’s left you with no other choice.”

“This is in the best interest of your child.”

It took some more self-convincing, but I finally walked towards the clerk to submit my forms.

And after what felt like a few quick glances and a stamp of her seal, it was official. My ex would now be responsible for paying a court mandated child support order.

For reasons I’ve yet to fully understand, when a custodial parent (which in most cases is typically a woman) files a petition for support, it can be seen as a declaration of war…or at the very least, an unforgivable betrayal.

Having His Baby But Not His Heart

Having His Baby But Not His Heart

“Then she became pregnant a third time and gave birth to another son. He was named Levi, for she said, “Surely this time my husband will feel affection for me, since I have given him three sons!”  Genesis 29:34 

It took a long time to believe the Bible could help navigate all the roadblocks of my life.

It’s not like I didn’t believe in God. I just never imagined a story from thousands of years ago could speak to my deepest hurt and unmask my hidden scars.

That was before I stumbled across the story of Leah and Jacob.

Tucked in between the pages of Genesis, their relationship could have easily been the main feature on any of today’s reality television shows.

It’s a story woven in rejection and entangled with love and betrayal.  And it’s one that unexpectedly tugged on the strings of my single mom heart.

Change of Heart: The Follow Up to the Facebook Challenge

Have you ever had a moment where you were just blown away by something God did? Something so unexpected yet incredible that you knew it was only Him?

I recently shared my story about a Facebook challenge that forced me to reexamine my relationship with my daughter’s dad. (CLICK HERE to check out The Facebook Challenge I Wanted to Ignore)

For weeks, I hesitated to complete the challenge.

Will he pick up my call and will it even make a difference?

What if I’m opening up myself to be hurt again?

Despite my efforts to shake off the challenge, I knew it was something I had to do.