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Holiday Blues: Do’s and Don’ts for Singles

Written by Brandi Marsh of Ebony and Pink Pearls for This Is Her Journey

Are you a single women dreading once again another year “being single” during the holidays? And  during this festive holiday time you feel frustrated, while nursing thoughts of:

  • What are you gonna tell those nosey relatives who definitely mean well, but always ask “why aren’t you married yet?”
  • Where are you going to do to occupy your time to avoid feelings of loneliness because you do not have the special someone in your life?
  • When will day come for me to bring my guy to the family Holiday vacation?

As you contemplate on  how to approach the holidays this season, it is very important to celebrate during this season in a way feel comfortable for you as a single person, whether you have that special someone in your life or not.

As you begin to see  all the commercialism, decorations and your ears are bombarded with songs of holiday cheer, let the following holiday do’s and don’ts guide you.

The Downright Dreadful and Difficult “S” Word

Wives, obey your own husbands. In doing this, you obey the Lord.  For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church…As the church is to obey Christ, wives are to obey their own husbands in everything. Ephesians 5:22-24 (NLV)

I’ve always been an independent, do things my own way kind of girl.

My family and close friends, they’d probably say I’m stubborn or hardheaded. But I like independent better, don’t you?

It’s a much more pleasant spin on what can be a downright dreadful and difficult topic, submission.

Being the good Christian girl I am, I’ve heard all the scriptures and sermons about submitting many, many times.

But that does nothing to stop the automatic eye rolls or slow the “ain’t nobody going to tell me what to do” chorus that quickly arises in my heart and my head.

A Special Prayer for Mother’s Day

I know today will be a busy day for many of you. It’s going to be a busy day for me as well.

But before we get lost in opening gifts, exchanging celebratory hugs, and sending off those sparkly group text messages, can we just slip away for a few moments of quiet…just the two of us?

Like so many moments in life, Mother’s Day can be bittersweet.

For some women, it is a blissful day of pampering from her family. For another, it can be a painful reminder of an indescribable loss. And for another, it’s a day where their seemingly deferred dreams come crashing head first into their present realities.

Yes, Mother’s Day can be all these things and so much.

The truth is life doesn’t always come wrapped in a pretty package of perfect.

Is God Listening?

“But God did listen! He paid attention to my prayer. Praise God, who did not ignore my prayer or withdraw his unfailing love from me.” Psalm 66:19-20
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Ever wonder if God is listening to your prayers? Me too!

Even though I grew up in a Christian home and have been in church for most of my life, there are times when I struggle with doubt:

Is God listening to me?

Will this prayer make a difference?

Does it make sense to pray about this situation?

Will this prayer work coming from me…or should I ask someone more spiritually strong to pray for me, this way God will answer?

But recently I’ve been experiencing God’s answers in the strangest way.

Take A Closer Look

“But you are to be perfect, even as your Father in heaven is perfect.” Matthew 5:48

I can never polish my nails as nicely as they do at the nail salon.

Maybe it’s because of the awkward angles I have to paint from. Maybe it’s because this is what they do every single day. Or maybe it’s because I’m just too heavy handed when it comes to the applications.

Either way there’s always a big difference when I DIY my nails versus going to get them professionally done.

Don’t get me wrong, from a distance, you can’t really tell the difference.

When I do my own nails, they’re decent enough to get compliments from others. But when I take a close up look, I can always spot the imperfections.

The closer I examine my paint job, the more over the lines, smudging, and uneven polish I see.

But isn’t that like our walk with Christ?