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Holiday Blues: Do’s and Don’ts for Singles

Written by Brandi Marsh of Ebony and Pink Pearls for This Is Her Journey

Are you a single women dreading once again another year “being single” during the holidays? And during this festive holiday time you feel frustrated, while nursing thoughts of:

  • What are you gonna tell those nosey relatives who definitely mean well, but always ask “why aren’t you married yet?”
  • Where are you going to do to occupy your time to avoid feelings of loneliness because you do not have the special someone in your life?
  • When will day come for me to bring my guy to the family Holiday vacation?

As you contemplate on how to approach the holidays this season, it is very important to celebrate during this season in a way feel comfortable for you as a single person, whether you have that special someone in your life or not.

As you begin to see all the commercialism, decorations and your ears are bombarded with songs of holiday cheer, let the following holiday do’s and don’ts guide you.

Something We Can All Share With The World

In that day you will say: “Give praise to the Lord, proclaim his name; make known among the nations what he has done, and proclaim that his name is exalted. Sing to the Lord, for he has done glorious things; let this be known to all the world. Isaiah 12:4-5 (NIV)

It’s Thanksgiving Day, and that can only mean one thing. Get ready to have your taste buds salivating all day (and night) as your family and friends share snapshots of their dinner and desserts up and down your news feeds.

There’ll be pictures. Videos. Memes. All showcasing the turkey, trimmings, and treats that will fill homes and stomachs all across America today.

We’ll see and read all about what’s happening in places near and far. It’s part of the delight of living in the age of social media.

But instead of only sharing what’s on our dinner plates, this year, why don’t we share something more meaningful with our networks.

Like specific ways on how God has been good to us.

And how many times in the past year we’ve experienced His goodness with unexpected blessings.

Yes, let’s do as instructed by the prophet Isaiah in our key verse today:

“Give praise to the Lord, proclaim his name; make known among the nations what he has done, and proclaim that his name is exalted. Sing to the Lord, for he has done glorious things; let this be known to all the world.” (Isaiah 12-4-5)

Your year may not have been perfect.  Some things may have unfolded the way you least expected.

Yet here you are, still alive. Still able to provide for yourself and your family. Still healthy. Still with a song in your heart and peace in your soul. Still blessed.

Thanksgiving Day is a great time to share the beauty of the Lord with the world, even those in your virtual lives.

So today, as we invite others to explore our culinary creations, let us also proudly proclaim how good our God is.

Let’s push the focus off of us and back on the One who deserves all the praise and the glory.

Let’s spread the message about Jesus and all He has done for us. Let’s tell people all across the country and the nations that God is real. He’s alive. And He’s the real reason why we all can be thankful.

That’s something worth sharing as well!

Dear Lord, help me to keep things in the right perspective today and everyday.  I can get so distracted and put my attention and focus into the wrong things. But in those moments, I pray that your Holy Spirit will help me to remember You Lord is what matters the most. Not popularity. Not fame. Not anything this world can offer. Help me to bring glory to Your Name as I share Your love and goodness to all those around me. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

The Downright Dreadful and Difficult “S” Word

Wives, obey your own husbands. In doing this, you obey the Lord.  For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church…As the church is to obey Christ, wives are to obey their own husbands in everything. Ephesians 5:22-24 (NLV)

I’ve always been an independent, do things my own way kind of girl.

My family and close friends, they’d probably say I’m stubborn or hardheaded. But I like independent better, don’t you?

It’s a much more pleasant spin on what can be a downright dreadful and difficult topic, submission.

Being the good Christian girl I am, I’ve heard all the scriptures and sermons about submitting many, many times.

But that does nothing to stop the automatic eye rolls or slow the “ain’t nobody going to tell me what to do” chorus that quickly arises in my heart and my head.

A Special Prayer for Mother’s Day

I know today will be a busy day for many of you. It’s going to be a busy day for me as well.

But before we get lost in opening gifts, exchanging celebratory hugs, and sending off those sparkly group text messages, can we just slip away for a few moments of quiet…just the two of us?

Like so many moments in life, Mother’s Day can be bittersweet.

For some women, it is a blissful day of pampering from her family. For another, it can be a painful reminder of an indescribable loss. And for another, it’s a day where their seemingly deferred dreams come crashing head first into their present realities.

Yes, Mother’s Day can be all these things and so much.

The truth is life doesn’t always come wrapped in a pretty package of perfect.

Is God Listening?

“But God did listen! He paid attention to my prayer. Praise God, who did not ignore my prayer or withdraw his unfailing love from me.” Psalm 66:19-20
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Ever wonder if God is listening to your prayers? Me too!

Even though I grew up in a Christian home and have been in church for most of my life, there are times when I struggle with doubt:

Is God listening to me?

Will this prayer make a difference?

Does it make sense to pray about this situation?

Will this prayer work coming from me…or should I ask someone more spiritually strong to pray for me, this way God will answer?

But recently I’ve been experiencing God’s answers in the strangest way.